Is it a big deal if he doesn't talk to me much online, even though we're in a long-distance relationship?

I've known this guy for 10 years, and I suppose he's a quiet person. We're living in separate countries, and I'm starting to doubt that he likes me. Now, I can't figure out if that's because of my insecurities, or if my instincts are correct. He's incredibly sweet in his emails, and sounds really genuine when he talks about how he can't wait for the summer when he'll see me again. Yet, we were talking over AIM, and while I'm sitting at my computer waiting for his replies, he's playing video games with friends, reading a blog, at the time. The last thing he said to me, came 3 minutes after my question. What's up with that? I told him I had to busy myself with other things without letting on that I was upset, and then I signed off.





Basically, I feel awful about it right now. I don't know if I should let it go, or take it as a really bad sign. A week ago, things were perfect between us. I have no idea what's changed.Is it a big deal if he doesn't talk to me much online, even though we're in a long-distance relationship?
Hi, since you were talking to the guy for about 10 years is long enough to know and understand each other. He might have some problems that he doesn鈥檛 want to share with you. Just give it some time so things can be fixed other wise go different directions and stop wasteing your time.





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Any advice on this matter at hand i dont know how long i can deal with relationship!?

im in a long distance relationship and its only 2 hours away im 20 hes 26 we r going on a year on christmas. everything went well until he had a 2nd job in June , he doesnt call or txt me i always txt and call and recieve no reply/answer and this will go on for a weeks at a time,,,,, i feel he uses that im busy or tired everytime we talk but our conversations dnt even last for 15 mins but wen i go on myspace hes message other girls, calls them babe, boo etc..and i dnt know what to do??Any advice on this matter at hand i dont know how long i can deal with relationship!?
You cannot force him to turn on you?


ur relationship is not legal and hence not created any legal right for protection


anyway I try to help u





if ur relationship was like flirts leave it





if any bodily relationship between you, definitely he would have said we are husband and wife so


Better take a plea you both married and upon which start actions under DV Act to clutch him with you for lifetimeAny advice on this matter at hand i dont know how long i can deal with relationship!?
If you honestly can't answer this yourself.. Then you deserve to be in this relationship.





The guy has become distant.


Sounds to me like he's no longer interested in you and has moved on but hasn't got the balls to tell you.


If I were you. I'd go visit him and see whats going on at home.


Then decide wether or not you can continue to be in this LONG distant relationship..
Forget him! This relationship is not going anywhere. Don't you know anyone in your neighborhood? Join some group or organization and try to meet some men close by. Check out my ';source'; and find out what goes into successful relationships.
It sounds like, in his mind, it's already over between you two. He pulled the fade away because he didn't have the guts to break up with you in person or even over the phone. Chances are he met some new girls at his new job and he is spending time with them. It sucks when guys do this kind of thing but at least you know now what he's really like. He did you a favor. Move on.
ms golden come on miss lady hes done pretty much! move on babez dont chase after someone who obviously doesnt want you because someone out here in this world does! hes not that one good luck!
KICK HIM TO THE CURB. LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP USUALLY DONT WORK. IF CANT TALK TO YOU THEN HE SHOULD BE ON MYSPACE. POINT BLANK PERIOD
It depends on how much you like this guy. You need to weigh up the pros and cons, but from the sound of it he doesn't seemed that bothered with you.Maybe it would be best if you moved on.


Take care
doesnt sound like you are in any kind of a relationship. You need to learn to take a hint. Dont contact him and move on. If someone doesnt respond to you it means they DONT want to talk to you.
I don't see how you're still considering this any type of relationship. No communication, no interaction, no trust - no relationship.
Sounds like you're the only one having a relationship. Scrap this one and start fresh. You deserve better.
Answer is very simple ,this is the high time to leave him alone and forget him.Do not call or txt him he is a cheater.Find someone else and be happy.
Well I think many have you the answer to your question. I think you know the answer yourself too, it's only that you are not ready to accept it still. Dear think about it, giving any more time to this relationship will only harm you and no one else. If a person truly loves you he would have been caring for you and would have not behaved like he is doing now. He has grown over this relationship, its time for you to move on. At least give it time, if he really loves you he'll come back to you. If he doesn't, its no use being in a relationship that gives you nothing back, not even love. Think about it!!!!

Long Distance Relationship! ?

Well I've been in one for about 4 months now


its been the best thing to ever happen to me


and id love to hear from other couples in my situation


anyone who would like to know more about my relationship


and how we met feel free to ask questions :] %26lt;3





I even have a Myspace where I can


give you any advice you need to make


your L.D.R. a successful one





tell me :


1.how far you live from your love


2.how long you have been dating


3.a quote or song you've heard dealing


with long distant relationships





Thank You! cant wait to hear from you all! %26lt;333Long Distance Relationship! ?
First i would like to say if i seen this a couple of months ago id be all long distance pro, but now I think they dont work 99.8 % of the time.





me and my girlfriend have been on a break for 4 months now..





1.1 state away


2. would be 9 months now


3. nadaLong Distance Relationship! ?
1. I live two hours drive away, but i cant drive yet


2. ive known him practically all my life but been dating since summer 2008


3. nothin yet girl, sorry





and although ldr's are tough, we love each other and see each other every so often so ive learned that keeping positive about the whole situation makes everything ALOT easier
We were 100 miles apart which isn't that far, but I worked days, he worked nights. His day off I worked and it kind of went like that. But, we managed like that for almost 2 years and then got married, been happy ever since. (Of course, I moved to his town when we got married.)
i dont think i would ever be able to handle being that far from my man!





1. 15 minutes away


2. Under 2 years


3. Love song - the cure








i need to see him


i need to hug him


i need to hold nim


i need his kiss


i need him close





i dont think i could ever do that, i would have to go with him


if he would ever leave town... but that is less likely
It will only work if you follow your heart and quickly get to the person you love!
Sadly my boyfriend that I have fallen in love with ever since the first day he walked into our school and I are breaking up cause I will be residing in North America while he's moving all the way to Asia. :'(
i'm in the same situation too - me and my boyfriend had been going out for 5 months (he lives 3 hours away from me) and we took a break from eachother, but recently got back together.





1. we live 3 hours from eachother


2. about 2 days now, but before it was 5 months until we took a break.


3. dear god by avenged sevenfold





it's hard to deal with though, but i don't let the distance get in the way because i love him so much.
its hard cause i moved to nj to go to college and my gf lives in chi and like when she needs me to physically help her i cant cause im in nj i get so fu*kn mad then my ex lives 20mins away an she always coming on to me


1)2000 miles


2) almost two yrs been apart since aug of 08


3) um kiss you threw the phone solja boy(hate it)
1. he's 1,100 miles away or 18 hours by car.


2. 10 months and counting :D


3. all around me by flyleaf





I just want to say congratulations and don't listen to all those jerks that say it'll never work. I'm happy with my man and just having someone to talk to it amazing. It can be alittle hard at times but we work through it. We plan on meeting in a few months. I can't wait :D
listen to that song long distance by brandy. it's new.
um,Hello.=] im currently living in Florida, he's in Georgia.(not to far)


its been year. 4 months


ive heard allot of songs and quotes it think he best quote is





';Time may take us apart, that's true,


but I will always be there for you.


You're in my heart,


you'll be in my dreams,


no matter the miles between.';





i love every minute of it





how is your LDR hun?
6 hours drive, 3.5 yrs. Well its hard, and you might find youself getting attracted to other people and get really lonely
I have been in a long relationship for three years and I have not seen her for a year this time... she is in Hutchinson, Kansas and I am in Hershey, Pennsylvania.... We use to see each other at least once every three months. but right now she is her 93 year old moms only care giver and she is not doing so very good. I am in no position to go out there and live but we are very much in love and talk three to five times a day and e mail all the time too.. i would not trade her for all the gold in China.... You keep her loving you and you love her and eventually it will work out..... good luck and god bless grant m in Pa
1. I live in the U.S. and she lives in India.


2. 1 month and a half yet she knows more secrets than anyone physically beside me can ever know.


3. ';Goodnight Starlight'; by The Juliana Theory. Every night on chat I hate saying goodnight to her because my night is her day and I have to sleep while she has to go to work. So saying goodbye takes at least 15 minutes because neither one of us wants to leave. This song clearly describes how I feel every time I have to say goodbye to her. Here are the most evoking ones:





I know sometimes it's lonely while you're sleeping.


Well, it's lonely for me too.


It's alright. Just know that while I'm sleeping,


That I'm dreaming of you.





And what we've got is something special,


And what we are is a perfect match,


And 3000 miles could never come between us.


We always have the stars to wish upon from where I'm at,


And where you are.





Love is a great thing. I'm lucky.
well... im not actually in a long distance relationship [yet]... and i know this is your question, but i could really use your help....


ok, i asked this question about 4 months ago... and because none of the answers really helped me any, i kinda just decided to be in denial from now on and i havent talked about it since... but, reading your question... i think you could really put my mind at ease....








ok, so my boyfriend, who i am madly in love with, really wants to go to this academy thing where he is across the other side of the state at this college basically his junior and senior year of highschool... im really really really scared though...





i dont want him to go!! i keep wanting to tell him to not leave me here alone... and i cant imagine walking the same halls without him... im more or less subtlely trying to talk him out of it.... i mean... i really really dont want to hold him back, but.... i really dont want him to go... i mean, i know math and science is like the most important thing in his life, but idk... i just kinda feel like ive been put underneath them... i know that sounds ';brat-like'; and im not, i promise! but... wouldnt it offend you to feel like you've put below algebra and physics??





but idk... i really dont want him to go... but i dont want to hold him back... what should i do? am i being too selfish?!?





please dont be too harsh... im on the verge of tears already...

















yeah...


its alright if you dont get the time to respond to it.... but... i have my profile set to where people can email me so.....





but anyway...


thank you in advance for atleast reading this question...








and im glad its working out in your long distance relationship...





~M~ %26lt;3
i have done a long distance relation ship but for like 6 months but it didnt last. he went off to the air force and we didnt keep in touch like that...its pretty sad because we talked about marriage and everything.,..its crazy
well i USED to be in a long dist. relationship, when i was younger. we lived at opposite edges of the US, so it was prettyyy far away. we were together for 7 months, and i was madly in love with him :] but we were too immature to handle the distance. he started lying to me so i began to lose trust in him. eventually he just started lying all the time, and cheating probably. so i called it quits, and i never ever talked about it until now actually. it's quite embarrassing.


not saying i'm against LDR's. as long as you and your bf are happy and mature, great! just be careful cuz there are a lot of creeps out there these days.


idk. i mean it feels awesome to be physically attracted (not sexually but gaze into his eyes, hold his hand, hug/kiss etc) bf. soo i hope you get to see him someday.
i have been a relationship for almost 2yrs now.im in the military so its a long distance relationship sometimes b/c we spend a lot of time apart.it was very stressful in the beginning,a lot of times i wanted to Just throw in the towel.im glad i didn't because it has turned out to be one of the most rewarding relationships i have ever had.it takes 2 strong people for a long distance relationship to work.if you are both dedicated and committed to the relationship it can work.the saying ';absence makes the heart grow fonder is very true.. anyone out there in a ldr...dnt give up make sure u set aside a time to communicate with each other daily,share pictures,try watching the same tv shows while y'all are on the phone,anything to help u feel connected,plenty of phone sex b/c yes temptation will be lurking in the shadows,but most importantly,when u do feel tempted to do the wrong thing...think about that special person and how devastated they would be if you betrayed them and ask yourself is sex really that important that i would hurt the one that i love and risk possibly jeopardizing our health?

Is anyone else dealing with a long distance relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months. he moved away to go to college in september and i've been lucky enough to see him once a month for a couple of days, but now i'm not sure when the next time I'll be able to see him is. financial problems are keeping us apart and I miss him so much!! I have become depressed and I just mope around and wish he was here. I've never felt this way for anyone before- it just feels like something is missing from my life. i don't know how to be happy anymore. is there anyone out there that knows how this feels and can give me some advice on how to feel better?Is anyone else dealing with a long distance relationship?
Yes. I've been there, done that.


The best thing to do is to communicate online, or by telephone, but when that is not available, I would lose myself in my work, or a hobby like the guitar or video games.


Also, it is *really* good to be around other people, but do not put your sorrow on to them. They would *not* appreciate it at all. But when you're around other people, it's best if you *know* them. You shouldn't go to the mall alone, cos you'll see happy little couples swinging hands, hugging and all that other jazz that you cannot do.


Definitely pick uP a hobby %26amp; be around other people.

What do i do in a long distance relationship?

me and my gf are both 14 but we live pretty far apart and at times i feel like just going over there because we rarely see each other and i can barely stand it. we talk everynight on the phone but i get anxous to see her but theres nothing i can do about it. and i dont really know how to deal with it.What do i do in a long distance relationship?
Just wait for her, tell her how you feel. Buy a webcam so you can see each other and make plans to see eachother soon. Maybe you can both go to the same place or you can go to her.What do i do in a long distance relationship?
Well I mean, long distance relationships are hard. There is no getting around that. You have to ask yourself whether or not it is worth it. Are you unhappy enough to end it? If so, then its time to move on. Otherwise, time makes it easier. Find something else to do that will help you pass time until the next time that you will see her. Things will also get much easier when one of you gets a car and can drive.
well you are both very young so i don't know how it is going to work... just try your best to see each other as much as possible. i see mine now every couple of weeks since we are long distance as well...
Well jimmy, this long distance is not good for you too.I think you should move on,there are a lot of girls.It's hard to move on, if you love her, but is the best way.Try to talk to her and explain, that this is not working, this way, and i am sure she'll understand.You 2 can be very good friends, but it's not worth it to think about her, every minute and to wonder what she's been doing?!


Life's to short, and you should move on, because you said ';it's long distance';!

I am dealing with a long-distance relationship marriage?

Im here in the philippines, and my husband is in US. we're having problems and i have no one to talk to., i cant even talk to him coz he's trying not to talk to me..he dont want me to cry., but how can i stop crying if i have no one to talk to.i have to pour out any pains i feel.i cant afford a counselor. any websites that can help me, that i can read or chat programs so i can talk to people that has the same problem with me., thanks to all.I am dealing with a long-distance relationship marriage?
I found you a website:


http://members.lovingyou.com/forumdispla鈥?/a>I am dealing with a long-distance relationship marriage?
if he wishes not to talk to him and you are having problems than maybe it is time to move on. By the way do you belong to a church? Talk to them.
i am free were thesame problem ,feel free and talk to me i am a wife also of american and had 1 son....so far residing in philippines.....just i'm me at my yahoo id. darling795@yahoo.com

LDR - long distance relationships do they work?

Heya, i've been with my bf now for just under a year, prior to meeting him i had decided to move away he had also planned on moving elsewhere and he did... i suggested we both break up when he moved away (just so that he didn't feel as tho he was bound to me and in the event that he possibly found a new love interest he was available to persue it without ties?) deep down i knew it wasn't what i wanted but i was prepared if it was what he wanted. We had only been together for a short while after all. He didn't want to break up so we stayed together - it was a mutual agreement (or so i thort)... We had discussed that he'd go over, set us up and i'd move over a lil later... he contacted me as soon as he landed and we talked about how excited he was and he was saying he wished i was there with him ra ra ra that was okay... 3 days later, hes ringing me saying he wants to break up and that his feelings for me have changed and all this other stuff. I was guttered and so heart broken. Here i am thinking oh u know he really likes me we're gonna be okay and then whammo he crushes me! 5 days later i was still trying to deal with what had happened and i was trying to deal with it... He calls me and tells me he was sorry he never wanted to break up with me he was listening to what other ppl were telling him to do, he was overwhelmed by being in a new country, he hadn't walked in to a job like how he had been promised b4 he left, he was living with his brother and sis-in-law who were apparently telling him that i was basically no good for him and that i was just trying to tie him down and would eventually use him. I couldn't believe what i was hearing i mean afterall i suggested we break up because i wanted him to live his own life he didn't want to so that made me happy cos i thort we cud work thru the LDR together. He suffers from mild depression so i don't know what this may have to do with it??? No longer than 2 mths he was away and then he come home, things were rocky at the beginning he thort things were gonna go back to how they were but i had mixed feelings and didn't know his motives for coming home it was just random, i wake up to a knock on my window and he's standing there, i had to rub my eyes a few times to make sure i was awake and not dreaming... i was a lil standoffish he was crying and telling me that his moving away was the worst decision he'd ever made he said they kept treating him like a kid, kept trying to make decisions for him. When he come home i didn't know how to be around him. I wasn't sure what his intentions were so i cut contact from him untill things were less blurry for me, he no longer had his cellphone as he lost it on the plane so we ***** really talk a lot. we ended up catching up a week and half later i had had time to think and pice somethings together for me and he had had time also. We got together he asked me out on a date the previous night to which i accepted. It was so simple yet so romantic. We just went to the beach and had a picnic, it was perfect. It gave us time to really talk and we were able to do it calmly (i'm usually the hothead so okay i was able to sit and listen to his story). Needless to say we got back together and things went back to how they were before he left AWESOME. Then a month later it was my turn to leave. I had already booked my ticket but because of my job as a teacher i wanted to see the year out before making the move. Initially i was moving to him, but when we broke up i changed my plans and decided to move closer to my family. I am here now, and good things are starting to fall in to place for me. I have a good job, i have just finalised purchasing a car, i haven't managed to find me a place yet cos rentals aren't easy to get in to with out a bunch of references the size of a novel but i am staying in a place where i have my own space so things r going really well apart from the fact that my honey isn't here. I try my best to keep our communication waves open so i try to contact him as much as i can and he'll txt me. I feel as tho i make more of an effort than he does tho and this is where my question do LDR's work stem from? If i didn't contact him so much would he try to maintain the contact or it wud our relationship die a slow? He wnt txt me until later in the day. I mean today he txt me at 1.45 his time which is 10.15 my time. i wanna give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that hes just being considerate of me cos i work a nyt job and hes letting me sleep but he tells me im his 1st and last thort but txts me every day at that time of the day... Am i over-reacting? Wud the relationship last if i don't make so much of an effort?LDR - long distance relationships do they work?
Oh wow, I am exhausted after reading that haha.


Ok to clarify, he moved to another country, moved back, meanwhile you moved away from him. So he is now where you both were originally, and you are living closer to your family with every aspect of your life besides that he isnt there?


Long distance relationships really do work. People who say they don't, have not tried them with the right person. When you are mutually in love, you will do whatever it takes to be with that person, and even if long distance is what it takes, you will make it work. That is the difference between people who think it does, and does not work.


Next, I would say you are over reacting. Through the through explanation of your relationship, he has clearly shown you that he really cares for you. Shown you that he goes to you for support. Just because he doesn't text you through-out the day does not mean he isnt thinking of you, and it does not show a lack of effort. Have you spoken to him that you dont feel like he texts you enough? Some people are really into texting and the whole technology thing, and some people aren't. He may be the second.


Lastly, If you did talk to him less, he may take the initiative and start the conversations. But it sounds to me like you are the main initiator in the relationship. so you are playing your role and he is playing his rolse.


Either way, he has shown you that he loves you.

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