Help please: How can you deal with a long distance relationship?

My girlfriend lives in Mexico and I live in Maine, USA. We have been having some problems. She says that she doesn't feel ';in love'; with me anymore and doesn't feel like she has a boyfriend and she wants to be free again. The thing with that is, she hasn't come out and said that she wants to break up. We just had our 8th month together, she still said happy 8th month and says she still cares about me. Also, my feelings for have not changed at all, I still love her with all my heart.(this is my first relationship too, EVER and I'm 19, and engaged, still, I hope) Everything was fine, then I don't know what happened. I am so confused. And if you can understand my babbling, can you please help me?Help please: How can you deal with a long distance relationship?
Listen to me carefully, my friend. A few years ago I fell in love with a Peruvian girl while I was in her country. I live in Massachusetts and she lives in Lima. We were ';together'; for a year and a half, and we were also engaged. First of all, she said the same things to me that you said. This sounds EXACTLY like what happened to me. She wanted to be free. Then she met another guy and they started out as friends but pretty soon I was the other guy in the relationship. We broke it off, and although she is miserable now, I'm so happy things happened the way they did.





Having been in the same situation, I can tell you that you are making a big mistake. Trust me brother, I've been there. If she is talking like that, it is because she wants to persue other opportunties. You CAN'T build a meaningful relationship over such a distance. At the time, when you are in it, you think you can, but you can't.





Most of my friends and family didn't have the heart to tell me then, but have since told me what they wish they had said. I'll say it to you because you need to hear it.





YOU ARE MAKING THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE. Bottom line.





Good luck.Help please: How can you deal with a long distance relationship?
It is uncanny how much you sound like I sounded. I said the same thing, even though everyone told me I was making a huge mistake.

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You can't, they don't work. The distance creates drama, the doubts, the wondering, the wandering, and loneliness.
I think either you need to move closer to her or she needs to move closer to you


im in a long distance relationship, even though we're in different states from each other we're only two hours away from each other and sometimes it gets hard so i cant imagine being that far away


I hope everything works out