How to deal with long distance relationship when both have personal issues?

I'm 23 and live in NC. I met this 17 yr old girl in Florida through a friend in Florida that gave her my number in the Spring. We texted only until December when we started calling and things escalated to relationship. I'm in the middle of coping with depression/anxiety issues, therapy and medication for it. She's dealing with her parents in the middle of a divorce. We've become best friends and we felt like we had fallen in love with each other.





I had made plans to see her for Valentine's Day in Feb and then again in March, but the last few weeks our personal issues have caught up with us putting stress on the relationship. We decided over the weekend to put things on hold between us for a while, and I hinted at just giving up completely. It left both of us sad, confused and upset. I kept trying to talk to her over the weekend and then she said not to talk to her until Tuesday so that we could both have time to think.





I'm just feeling so lost right now without her. She was the first person in my life that I've ever felt this close to and could be this honest with, and she accepts me. I already have major trust issues and I'm so afraid of losing her, but I'm afraid I've hurt her in the process of dealing with my own issues. What do I do?How to deal with long distance relationship when both have personal issues?
Sadly, long distance relationships have a 90% demise ratio. The distance alone is bad enough and lonely enough. But add to that: personal/family issues, and the relationship is truly stressed. She's 17, and her issues are much harder for her to handle than yours, regardless of what the issues are. Mainly because she's 17. At 23, you can deal with your issues better than she hers. Luckily, you've both made a decision to give it a break. That's a positive note. As lonely as it might be, it's a lot better than getting deeper into each other and then watching the whole thing fall apart, which is a statistical fact. If you two could possibly come to an arrangment wherein you are both supportive to each other, yet not committed to each other, that would be a perfect solution. I would take a great deal from you because of your trust issues. And if you could do that, it would truly shine in her eyes, thereby assuring her that things between the both of you COULD yet still be alive. Good Luck and have a great new year.How to deal with long distance relationship when both have personal issues?
Well when you do talk to her, get over this thing. Tell her that this break isn't working for you and you miss her! Just try to calm her problems and comfort her. I know you have your own too, but just try. I believe it's really the guys job. (the girl has to help too.) Just tell her how you feel and don't lose her.





Goodluck man :)
Oh no, I know exactly how you feel because I'm in a similar situation. The best thing to solve your problems is to communicate! Talk about your problems and support each other. Don't hide anything, but most importantly, don't give up!





Tell her exactly what you wrote here, that she's the first person that you've felt that close to and you don't want to lose her. That will mean a lot to her when she hears it. If she feels the same way about you, then nothing will break you apart. Good luck!