Is it a big deal if he doesn't talk to me much online, even though we're in a long-distance relationship?

I've known this guy for 10 years, and I suppose he's a quiet person. We're living in separate countries, and I'm starting to doubt that he likes me. Now, I can't figure out if that's because of my insecurities, or if my instincts are correct. He's incredibly sweet in his emails, and sounds really genuine when he talks about how he can't wait for the summer when he'll see me again. Yet, we were talking over AIM, and while I'm sitting at my computer waiting for his replies, he's playing video games with friends, reading a blog, at the time. The last thing he said to me, came 3 minutes after my question. What's up with that? I told him I had to busy myself with other things without letting on that I was upset, and then I signed off.





Basically, I feel awful about it right now. I don't know if I should let it go, or take it as a really bad sign. A week ago, things were perfect between us. I have no idea what's changed.Is it a big deal if he doesn't talk to me much online, even though we're in a long-distance relationship?
Hi, since you were talking to the guy for about 10 years is long enough to know and understand each other. He might have some problems that he doesn鈥檛 want to share with you. Just give it some time so things can be fixed other wise go different directions and stop wasteing your time.





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Any advice on this matter at hand i dont know how long i can deal with relationship!?

im in a long distance relationship and its only 2 hours away im 20 hes 26 we r going on a year on christmas. everything went well until he had a 2nd job in June , he doesnt call or txt me i always txt and call and recieve no reply/answer and this will go on for a weeks at a time,,,,, i feel he uses that im busy or tired everytime we talk but our conversations dnt even last for 15 mins but wen i go on myspace hes message other girls, calls them babe, boo etc..and i dnt know what to do??Any advice on this matter at hand i dont know how long i can deal with relationship!?
You cannot force him to turn on you?


ur relationship is not legal and hence not created any legal right for protection


anyway I try to help u





if ur relationship was like flirts leave it





if any bodily relationship between you, definitely he would have said we are husband and wife so


Better take a plea you both married and upon which start actions under DV Act to clutch him with you for lifetimeAny advice on this matter at hand i dont know how long i can deal with relationship!?
If you honestly can't answer this yourself.. Then you deserve to be in this relationship.





The guy has become distant.


Sounds to me like he's no longer interested in you and has moved on but hasn't got the balls to tell you.


If I were you. I'd go visit him and see whats going on at home.


Then decide wether or not you can continue to be in this LONG distant relationship..
Forget him! This relationship is not going anywhere. Don't you know anyone in your neighborhood? Join some group or organization and try to meet some men close by. Check out my ';source'; and find out what goes into successful relationships.
It sounds like, in his mind, it's already over between you two. He pulled the fade away because he didn't have the guts to break up with you in person or even over the phone. Chances are he met some new girls at his new job and he is spending time with them. It sucks when guys do this kind of thing but at least you know now what he's really like. He did you a favor. Move on.
ms golden come on miss lady hes done pretty much! move on babez dont chase after someone who obviously doesnt want you because someone out here in this world does! hes not that one good luck!
KICK HIM TO THE CURB. LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP USUALLY DONT WORK. IF CANT TALK TO YOU THEN HE SHOULD BE ON MYSPACE. POINT BLANK PERIOD
It depends on how much you like this guy. You need to weigh up the pros and cons, but from the sound of it he doesn't seemed that bothered with you.Maybe it would be best if you moved on.


Take care
doesnt sound like you are in any kind of a relationship. You need to learn to take a hint. Dont contact him and move on. If someone doesnt respond to you it means they DONT want to talk to you.
I don't see how you're still considering this any type of relationship. No communication, no interaction, no trust - no relationship.
Sounds like you're the only one having a relationship. Scrap this one and start fresh. You deserve better.
Answer is very simple ,this is the high time to leave him alone and forget him.Do not call or txt him he is a cheater.Find someone else and be happy.
Well I think many have you the answer to your question. I think you know the answer yourself too, it's only that you are not ready to accept it still. Dear think about it, giving any more time to this relationship will only harm you and no one else. If a person truly loves you he would have been caring for you and would have not behaved like he is doing now. He has grown over this relationship, its time for you to move on. At least give it time, if he really loves you he'll come back to you. If he doesn't, its no use being in a relationship that gives you nothing back, not even love. Think about it!!!!

Long Distance Relationship! ?

Well I've been in one for about 4 months now


its been the best thing to ever happen to me


and id love to hear from other couples in my situation


anyone who would like to know more about my relationship


and how we met feel free to ask questions :] %26lt;3





I even have a Myspace where I can


give you any advice you need to make


your L.D.R. a successful one





tell me :


1.how far you live from your love


2.how long you have been dating


3.a quote or song you've heard dealing


with long distant relationships





Thank You! cant wait to hear from you all! %26lt;333Long Distance Relationship! ?
First i would like to say if i seen this a couple of months ago id be all long distance pro, but now I think they dont work 99.8 % of the time.





me and my girlfriend have been on a break for 4 months now..





1.1 state away


2. would be 9 months now


3. nadaLong Distance Relationship! ?
1. I live two hours drive away, but i cant drive yet


2. ive known him practically all my life but been dating since summer 2008


3. nothin yet girl, sorry





and although ldr's are tough, we love each other and see each other every so often so ive learned that keeping positive about the whole situation makes everything ALOT easier
We were 100 miles apart which isn't that far, but I worked days, he worked nights. His day off I worked and it kind of went like that. But, we managed like that for almost 2 years and then got married, been happy ever since. (Of course, I moved to his town when we got married.)
i dont think i would ever be able to handle being that far from my man!





1. 15 minutes away


2. Under 2 years


3. Love song - the cure








i need to see him


i need to hug him


i need to hold nim


i need his kiss


i need him close





i dont think i could ever do that, i would have to go with him


if he would ever leave town... but that is less likely
It will only work if you follow your heart and quickly get to the person you love!
Sadly my boyfriend that I have fallen in love with ever since the first day he walked into our school and I are breaking up cause I will be residing in North America while he's moving all the way to Asia. :'(
i'm in the same situation too - me and my boyfriend had been going out for 5 months (he lives 3 hours away from me) and we took a break from eachother, but recently got back together.





1. we live 3 hours from eachother


2. about 2 days now, but before it was 5 months until we took a break.


3. dear god by avenged sevenfold





it's hard to deal with though, but i don't let the distance get in the way because i love him so much.
its hard cause i moved to nj to go to college and my gf lives in chi and like when she needs me to physically help her i cant cause im in nj i get so fu*kn mad then my ex lives 20mins away an she always coming on to me


1)2000 miles


2) almost two yrs been apart since aug of 08


3) um kiss you threw the phone solja boy(hate it)
1. he's 1,100 miles away or 18 hours by car.


2. 10 months and counting :D


3. all around me by flyleaf





I just want to say congratulations and don't listen to all those jerks that say it'll never work. I'm happy with my man and just having someone to talk to it amazing. It can be alittle hard at times but we work through it. We plan on meeting in a few months. I can't wait :D
listen to that song long distance by brandy. it's new.
um,Hello.=] im currently living in Florida, he's in Georgia.(not to far)


its been year. 4 months


ive heard allot of songs and quotes it think he best quote is





';Time may take us apart, that's true,


but I will always be there for you.


You're in my heart,


you'll be in my dreams,


no matter the miles between.';





i love every minute of it





how is your LDR hun?
6 hours drive, 3.5 yrs. Well its hard, and you might find youself getting attracted to other people and get really lonely
I have been in a long relationship for three years and I have not seen her for a year this time... she is in Hutchinson, Kansas and I am in Hershey, Pennsylvania.... We use to see each other at least once every three months. but right now she is her 93 year old moms only care giver and she is not doing so very good. I am in no position to go out there and live but we are very much in love and talk three to five times a day and e mail all the time too.. i would not trade her for all the gold in China.... You keep her loving you and you love her and eventually it will work out..... good luck and god bless grant m in Pa
1. I live in the U.S. and she lives in India.


2. 1 month and a half yet she knows more secrets than anyone physically beside me can ever know.


3. ';Goodnight Starlight'; by The Juliana Theory. Every night on chat I hate saying goodnight to her because my night is her day and I have to sleep while she has to go to work. So saying goodbye takes at least 15 minutes because neither one of us wants to leave. This song clearly describes how I feel every time I have to say goodbye to her. Here are the most evoking ones:





I know sometimes it's lonely while you're sleeping.


Well, it's lonely for me too.


It's alright. Just know that while I'm sleeping,


That I'm dreaming of you.





And what we've got is something special,


And what we are is a perfect match,


And 3000 miles could never come between us.


We always have the stars to wish upon from where I'm at,


And where you are.





Love is a great thing. I'm lucky.
well... im not actually in a long distance relationship [yet]... and i know this is your question, but i could really use your help....


ok, i asked this question about 4 months ago... and because none of the answers really helped me any, i kinda just decided to be in denial from now on and i havent talked about it since... but, reading your question... i think you could really put my mind at ease....








ok, so my boyfriend, who i am madly in love with, really wants to go to this academy thing where he is across the other side of the state at this college basically his junior and senior year of highschool... im really really really scared though...





i dont want him to go!! i keep wanting to tell him to not leave me here alone... and i cant imagine walking the same halls without him... im more or less subtlely trying to talk him out of it.... i mean... i really really dont want to hold him back, but.... i really dont want him to go... i mean, i know math and science is like the most important thing in his life, but idk... i just kinda feel like ive been put underneath them... i know that sounds ';brat-like'; and im not, i promise! but... wouldnt it offend you to feel like you've put below algebra and physics??





but idk... i really dont want him to go... but i dont want to hold him back... what should i do? am i being too selfish?!?





please dont be too harsh... im on the verge of tears already...

















yeah...


its alright if you dont get the time to respond to it.... but... i have my profile set to where people can email me so.....





but anyway...


thank you in advance for atleast reading this question...








and im glad its working out in your long distance relationship...





~M~ %26lt;3
i have done a long distance relation ship but for like 6 months but it didnt last. he went off to the air force and we didnt keep in touch like that...its pretty sad because we talked about marriage and everything.,..its crazy
well i USED to be in a long dist. relationship, when i was younger. we lived at opposite edges of the US, so it was prettyyy far away. we were together for 7 months, and i was madly in love with him :] but we were too immature to handle the distance. he started lying to me so i began to lose trust in him. eventually he just started lying all the time, and cheating probably. so i called it quits, and i never ever talked about it until now actually. it's quite embarrassing.


not saying i'm against LDR's. as long as you and your bf are happy and mature, great! just be careful cuz there are a lot of creeps out there these days.


idk. i mean it feels awesome to be physically attracted (not sexually but gaze into his eyes, hold his hand, hug/kiss etc) bf. soo i hope you get to see him someday.
i have been a relationship for almost 2yrs now.im in the military so its a long distance relationship sometimes b/c we spend a lot of time apart.it was very stressful in the beginning,a lot of times i wanted to Just throw in the towel.im glad i didn't because it has turned out to be one of the most rewarding relationships i have ever had.it takes 2 strong people for a long distance relationship to work.if you are both dedicated and committed to the relationship it can work.the saying ';absence makes the heart grow fonder is very true.. anyone out there in a ldr...dnt give up make sure u set aside a time to communicate with each other daily,share pictures,try watching the same tv shows while y'all are on the phone,anything to help u feel connected,plenty of phone sex b/c yes temptation will be lurking in the shadows,but most importantly,when u do feel tempted to do the wrong thing...think about that special person and how devastated they would be if you betrayed them and ask yourself is sex really that important that i would hurt the one that i love and risk possibly jeopardizing our health?

Is anyone else dealing with a long distance relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months. he moved away to go to college in september and i've been lucky enough to see him once a month for a couple of days, but now i'm not sure when the next time I'll be able to see him is. financial problems are keeping us apart and I miss him so much!! I have become depressed and I just mope around and wish he was here. I've never felt this way for anyone before- it just feels like something is missing from my life. i don't know how to be happy anymore. is there anyone out there that knows how this feels and can give me some advice on how to feel better?Is anyone else dealing with a long distance relationship?
Yes. I've been there, done that.


The best thing to do is to communicate online, or by telephone, but when that is not available, I would lose myself in my work, or a hobby like the guitar or video games.


Also, it is *really* good to be around other people, but do not put your sorrow on to them. They would *not* appreciate it at all. But when you're around other people, it's best if you *know* them. You shouldn't go to the mall alone, cos you'll see happy little couples swinging hands, hugging and all that other jazz that you cannot do.


Definitely pick uP a hobby %26amp; be around other people.

What do i do in a long distance relationship?

me and my gf are both 14 but we live pretty far apart and at times i feel like just going over there because we rarely see each other and i can barely stand it. we talk everynight on the phone but i get anxous to see her but theres nothing i can do about it. and i dont really know how to deal with it.What do i do in a long distance relationship?
Just wait for her, tell her how you feel. Buy a webcam so you can see each other and make plans to see eachother soon. Maybe you can both go to the same place or you can go to her.What do i do in a long distance relationship?
Well I mean, long distance relationships are hard. There is no getting around that. You have to ask yourself whether or not it is worth it. Are you unhappy enough to end it? If so, then its time to move on. Otherwise, time makes it easier. Find something else to do that will help you pass time until the next time that you will see her. Things will also get much easier when one of you gets a car and can drive.
well you are both very young so i don't know how it is going to work... just try your best to see each other as much as possible. i see mine now every couple of weeks since we are long distance as well...
Well jimmy, this long distance is not good for you too.I think you should move on,there are a lot of girls.It's hard to move on, if you love her, but is the best way.Try to talk to her and explain, that this is not working, this way, and i am sure she'll understand.You 2 can be very good friends, but it's not worth it to think about her, every minute and to wonder what she's been doing?!


Life's to short, and you should move on, because you said ';it's long distance';!

I am dealing with a long-distance relationship marriage?

Im here in the philippines, and my husband is in US. we're having problems and i have no one to talk to., i cant even talk to him coz he's trying not to talk to me..he dont want me to cry., but how can i stop crying if i have no one to talk to.i have to pour out any pains i feel.i cant afford a counselor. any websites that can help me, that i can read or chat programs so i can talk to people that has the same problem with me., thanks to all.I am dealing with a long-distance relationship marriage?
I found you a website:


http://members.lovingyou.com/forumdispla鈥?/a>I am dealing with a long-distance relationship marriage?
if he wishes not to talk to him and you are having problems than maybe it is time to move on. By the way do you belong to a church? Talk to them.
i am free were thesame problem ,feel free and talk to me i am a wife also of american and had 1 son....so far residing in philippines.....just i'm me at my yahoo id. darling795@yahoo.com

LDR - long distance relationships do they work?

Heya, i've been with my bf now for just under a year, prior to meeting him i had decided to move away he had also planned on moving elsewhere and he did... i suggested we both break up when he moved away (just so that he didn't feel as tho he was bound to me and in the event that he possibly found a new love interest he was available to persue it without ties?) deep down i knew it wasn't what i wanted but i was prepared if it was what he wanted. We had only been together for a short while after all. He didn't want to break up so we stayed together - it was a mutual agreement (or so i thort)... We had discussed that he'd go over, set us up and i'd move over a lil later... he contacted me as soon as he landed and we talked about how excited he was and he was saying he wished i was there with him ra ra ra that was okay... 3 days later, hes ringing me saying he wants to break up and that his feelings for me have changed and all this other stuff. I was guttered and so heart broken. Here i am thinking oh u know he really likes me we're gonna be okay and then whammo he crushes me! 5 days later i was still trying to deal with what had happened and i was trying to deal with it... He calls me and tells me he was sorry he never wanted to break up with me he was listening to what other ppl were telling him to do, he was overwhelmed by being in a new country, he hadn't walked in to a job like how he had been promised b4 he left, he was living with his brother and sis-in-law who were apparently telling him that i was basically no good for him and that i was just trying to tie him down and would eventually use him. I couldn't believe what i was hearing i mean afterall i suggested we break up because i wanted him to live his own life he didn't want to so that made me happy cos i thort we cud work thru the LDR together. He suffers from mild depression so i don't know what this may have to do with it??? No longer than 2 mths he was away and then he come home, things were rocky at the beginning he thort things were gonna go back to how they were but i had mixed feelings and didn't know his motives for coming home it was just random, i wake up to a knock on my window and he's standing there, i had to rub my eyes a few times to make sure i was awake and not dreaming... i was a lil standoffish he was crying and telling me that his moving away was the worst decision he'd ever made he said they kept treating him like a kid, kept trying to make decisions for him. When he come home i didn't know how to be around him. I wasn't sure what his intentions were so i cut contact from him untill things were less blurry for me, he no longer had his cellphone as he lost it on the plane so we ***** really talk a lot. we ended up catching up a week and half later i had had time to think and pice somethings together for me and he had had time also. We got together he asked me out on a date the previous night to which i accepted. It was so simple yet so romantic. We just went to the beach and had a picnic, it was perfect. It gave us time to really talk and we were able to do it calmly (i'm usually the hothead so okay i was able to sit and listen to his story). Needless to say we got back together and things went back to how they were before he left AWESOME. Then a month later it was my turn to leave. I had already booked my ticket but because of my job as a teacher i wanted to see the year out before making the move. Initially i was moving to him, but when we broke up i changed my plans and decided to move closer to my family. I am here now, and good things are starting to fall in to place for me. I have a good job, i have just finalised purchasing a car, i haven't managed to find me a place yet cos rentals aren't easy to get in to with out a bunch of references the size of a novel but i am staying in a place where i have my own space so things r going really well apart from the fact that my honey isn't here. I try my best to keep our communication waves open so i try to contact him as much as i can and he'll txt me. I feel as tho i make more of an effort than he does tho and this is where my question do LDR's work stem from? If i didn't contact him so much would he try to maintain the contact or it wud our relationship die a slow? He wnt txt me until later in the day. I mean today he txt me at 1.45 his time which is 10.15 my time. i wanna give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that hes just being considerate of me cos i work a nyt job and hes letting me sleep but he tells me im his 1st and last thort but txts me every day at that time of the day... Am i over-reacting? Wud the relationship last if i don't make so much of an effort?LDR - long distance relationships do they work?
Oh wow, I am exhausted after reading that haha.


Ok to clarify, he moved to another country, moved back, meanwhile you moved away from him. So he is now where you both were originally, and you are living closer to your family with every aspect of your life besides that he isnt there?


Long distance relationships really do work. People who say they don't, have not tried them with the right person. When you are mutually in love, you will do whatever it takes to be with that person, and even if long distance is what it takes, you will make it work. That is the difference between people who think it does, and does not work.


Next, I would say you are over reacting. Through the through explanation of your relationship, he has clearly shown you that he really cares for you. Shown you that he goes to you for support. Just because he doesn't text you through-out the day does not mean he isnt thinking of you, and it does not show a lack of effort. Have you spoken to him that you dont feel like he texts you enough? Some people are really into texting and the whole technology thing, and some people aren't. He may be the second.


Lastly, If you did talk to him less, he may take the initiative and start the conversations. But it sounds to me like you are the main initiator in the relationship. so you are playing your role and he is playing his rolse.


Either way, he has shown you that he loves you.

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How to deal with not seeing your partner for 9 months? long distance?

I moved to Europe today all on short notice, my boyfriend and I have been together almost a year, I'm just missing our anniversary. I love the kid to death and while I know we can pull off 9 months, it's hard imagining though not being able to physically see him and touch him. we were pretty used to seeing eachother about every other day at the longest. in 9 months I can definately move back to the states, then we're getting ready for college and moving in together.


I'm so glad it's only 9 months, I know that is not long at all and I feel for the military wives. I don't know how they do it. if you have been in a long distance relationship, what tips do you have?How to deal with not seeing your partner for 9 months? long distance?
believe me you will need some visits to break up the 9 months separation...im in a similar situation and 3 months is all we can manage to be apart with going crazy! we talk, email, im, each day, send cards, gifts, flowers anything to remain close and to have contact but the visits are what keeps our relationship alive and moving forward...we are engaged and its so hard!





start saving now to finance and visit because 9 months is far too long to be apart...we have a very strong and secure relationship but after 2 months each day is a struggle when you love someone from afar!

Long Distance Relationships?

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months now, and he left for college almost 2 months ago. Before we left, we had the ';textbook'; relationship and everything went perfectly. But ever since he's been at college its been really hard for me to deal with. Considering he's five hours away and I see him maybe one weekend a month, we rarely see each other. I know he's really busy with school and work but it hurts to know we rarely even speak. And on top of that he went to lunch with this girl he met and when I expressed my feelings about this he said I was over-reacting because he was just trying to be friendly and meet new people. I trust him, and I have trusted him for the entirety of our relationship. But I'm afraid girls at his school will try and take him away from me, although he's said that will never happen what should I do? and how should I react?Long Distance Relationships?
You're handling it much better than most people do. When two people are separated like this, it's really hard to be the one who stays behind while the other goes away. It takes a lot more strength to do that. Let me see if I can shed some light on this for you.





Meeting people in college and making new friends is strenuous, and especially in the beginning, everyone is just as desperate as everyone else. They've all left their homes and friends and girlfriends and boyfriends, and even after two months, many people still haven't found their place. Since eating alone really sucks, people are willing to eat with almost anyone they know by name. So it doesn't really mean much when two people eat together. I think you're safe putting your trust in him.





One thing I can suggest is a pair of webcams. Wal-Mart sells single and two-pack Logitech webcams, which come with software. MSN Messenger is the best service I ever encountered for webcam chat, since the picture is big and clear. The audio sucks, but you can defeat that by talking on cell phones, or just type back and forth. It's nice to see each other in live action, and they can be really fun... if you know what I mean. Best wishes, and good luck.Long Distance Relationships?
I am had a similar problem with my exgirlfriend in the military even though you are worried about the girls at his school the real issue is that you are feeling insecure about yourself and if you honestly believe your boyfriend would never do any thing to hurt you go with that. I see were you are coming from but take my advice and if you care for him and know he cares for you dont make the same mistake that i made Go with your gut feeling and dont let anyone tell you other wise. You can take that how you want
You will probably hate to hear this but you should let him go for this time, Long distance relationships get very hard on each other in the long run. Unless you planning on going him in a year then you should be fine in the relationship. If you were good to him he will come back to you. if you stay with him he will feel down, + it never hurts for you too meet someone new, there are alot of interesting guys out there.

How to maintain a long distance relationship?

my boyfriend of 11 months just found out that he has to go live in florida for 6 months [less or more] and our one year is on valentine's day. I'm going to miss him terribly but how can i deal with the pain. Please help, i love him so much and we're planning on staying together but its so painful because i miss him so much. We found our 4 days before he left, it was horrible.How to maintain a long distance relationship?
It'll be normal to miss him. When you talk tohim over the phone it'll be different. Kinds more special. And although the distance may hurt it will strengthen your relationship. Be strong. Good luck:)

Long distance relationships?? please help.?

okay so my boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months and i live in Connecticut, im only going to be a junior.Hes going to college or a year in Arizona. im really sad. its not an option to break up were so in love and im going to miss him so much. how can i make it easier to deal with??Long distance relationships?? please help.?
long distance is hard, you should know, but it's very manageable and can work! first off it's important to see eachother whenever it's possible. you should go to stay with him and he should come to stay with you, as often as possible because it shows you're both wanting to maintain your relationship AND friendship.


Talk to him on the phone and all these things, but at the end of the day, accross the distance, the most important thing is for him to know you're there for him, and for you to know that he's there for you. you'll go through patches where it's harder and harder to continue this kind of relationship but if you're able to trust him completely and same for him, then i promise you it can work :)Long distance relationships?? please help.?
Aaron Burr had a long distance relationship. it's do-able

Please help I'm having hard time dealing with my long distance relationship.?

I have been together with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and now we have to be apart for a while due to me having to move back home to the states for a while. If everything goes well he will come and visit me for 21 days in August and then hopefully he will realizes how much he misses me and love me and would maybe want to marry me so we can be back in each other arms. That is my ultimate dream come true. That being said, right now I am going nuts. I am so anxious most of the time and I am so worried that he would not miss me and that he would find someone else to replace me. I am trying to put up a strong front so that I can leave with a good impression but its so hard- I just want to cry every time I think deep into the situation. All I can conjure up are negative thoughts- My ticket to come back to the states is in 12 hours鈥?and i am going crazy inside, I feel so scared of the future and of the unknown. Last night his mom was telling him how this weekend (after i麓m gone already) he should have a guys night out and relax with his friends. I really tried hard not to react but I failed and flipped out on him =( Just the thought of him going out and having fun laughing drinking and I am all alone in my house oceans away from him makes me so depress. He got upset with me because he never planned anything, he never said he would even go- it was only what his mom said and I jumped to conclusion. He assured me that he wouldn麓t go. I still don麓t feel better because what if he doesn麓t go this time, but what about the next time? I came to realize that I won麓t be here for all the memories anymore, the holidays-christmas for example, and I would not know whether or not he go out or not maybe he would just choose to not tell me so we won麓t fight鈥 don麓t know why I am being so controlling but this situation is out of my hands and I can麓t control anything and it is driving me crazy and i麓m a bundle of nerves- Also I heard his brother saying that this coming Friday they should all go out to lunch together with co-workers and i know for a fact that there will be one girl there. She already has a boyfriend, she is one of the co-workers鈥 know i should not even think about being jealous of her but i am!!! Why does she get to see my bf and be there with him and i麓ll be oceans away??? Life is not fair!! I know I need to keep my cool and be on my best behavior and just try to relax but it is sooooo hard. One thing for sure though is if i keep this sillyness up he will NEVER want to marry me and I will push him far away and lose him in the end. I know it is normal for him to still go on with his life here even though i麓m not physically here we are not broken up so i am still a part of his life. He can definitely still laugh and have fun without me, it does not mean he doesn麓t miss me or love me鈥ut this doesn麓t comfort me enough =( Just the thought of him going out, even if there are no girls around, scares me. It is unrealistic to think he would just go to work go home, go fishing (it is his favorite hobby), take drinks with his brother, play the ps3 and go to sleep鈥?What麓s amazing is that these are the things he told me he would do, and that he is over the partying days and he does not plan to go out to clubs or anywhere like that without me. He said he just wants to relax save money to visit me and for our future and contact me every day. It just seems too good to be true and I worry for how good it sounds鈥e gets mad that I dont seem to trust him and that i am thinking for him and thinking of what he would do when he never plan to do anything that would hurt me. im just a mess- Please help me deal with my emotions.Please help I麓m having hard time dealing with my long distance relationship.?
*gives you a hug* - that's a lot of writing, you sure seem very anxious. He seems like he is telling the truth about what hes doing. Missing him is extremly natural in your situation. What's best is to try and funnel your emotions into something productive. You could write him a very large letter telling him how you feel etc, you could make a picture book or relationship book - and send that too him.





Make sure also that if he tells you not to worry, and he loves you and will be faithful to believe him and make sure he knows that you believe him. When I say these things to my GF and she seems unsure, it makes me feel like a failure.





Trust him, believe in him, and love him. Your worries should then go away.





What you're feeling is completly natural.Please help I麓m having hard time dealing with my long distance relationship.?
You already know you're too clingy and pushy. there's really no hurry. If you back off and cares a lot for you, he'll call you. Give yourself time to know for sure what his real intentions are.
Be cool darling, i know what you going through right now. but this is not the solution, give him some space, its his life as well %26amp; he has the rights to enjoy it to the fullest.





If you try to be controlling then you may loose him 1 day, he may get frustated %26amp; break the relationship.





If he really loves you, he will have contacts with you no matter how far you are.





Trust him finally
have you ever stopped to consider....





he will miss you as much as you do him??





thought not


i am in a LDR and ts hard


especially in the early days


my advice to you is to keep busy, go out, socialize


and then you have lots to take your mind from things and lots to talk about


LDR s are hard work, but so very rewarding


you appreciate the time you do have together way more





the begining will be sad, and hard


but you have to keep faith


moaning and grumping about everything will spoil what contact you do have





best wishes
Wow! Thisw is long! I feel your pain and it is very scary. You have to talk to him! And right now. Be very honest. Even if that mean telling him you don't even know how you feel except scared. Why not copy and paste what you just wrote here. Talk to him!!! Don't regret not taling to him. Who knows...maybe he is feeling the same way. Time is ticking, so get to yapping with him privately
honestly hun u need to chill out he sounds like me the way u described him and i never cheated on my girlfriend... my girlfriend lives in california and i live in new york she goes to school out here but she goes back home for the summers and we talk EVERY day when shes away...and i do miss her alot still but we make plans to see each other..which from what i read u have also made plans to see each other in august so thats something you should look foward on... i believe you should trust him till he gives you a reason not to. :)
well from my experience i can say that I had lost a guy bec i was getting too much worried about the future and thinking things just like you. Guys dont like this kind of attitute. Even my relationship's future was not certain bec of long distance and even before we parted for the long distance relation i used to cry infront of him each time we met and he would console me and promise me that everythng will be ok. but with time i felt that i have bored him a lot due to my insecurities and i lost him!!


so the best thing to do is ... just be with the flow ...let thngs happen and just dont worry abt anythng as ';whtever has to happen, WILL happen'; !!
Heyyy So this took forever for me to read but I read it haha because I'm in the same boat. I too, am in a LDR. but my guy is only a hour away from me... not a ocean away. The thing is, if he loves you he wouldnt be doing this. He wouldnt have someone across an ocean if he didnt love her. Your worrying too much. I've done all the worrying and everything about other girls and I know what its like so dont worry about it at all. Your gonna be okay. I do the whole worrying thing on a regular basis its because you love him so much. I hope everything goes well for you and when you get to see him. I get to see mine in a few hours too. its gonna be the happiest moment ever. The whole thing about it is. Your gonna get mad and worry about him, but suspicion kills a relationship you have to trust him 100% if you want him to do the same, I mean I bet he probably worries about the same things you do. The whole point is to be calm and not over react to anything. Your gonna be okay!! =] Stay positive it helps and always always always look on the bright side of things =] Your gonna be A okay and as for the future dont worry about it I too get scared of the future the whole thing is to not think about it soooo much. Think of the now and hope for the future. Everything that happens will happen for a reason! If god puts you to it he will help you through it =] Stay postive and goodluck I hope you get everything you want out of this. =]
Hi





Raven is right I can understand how you feel as i am in my second year of my long distance relationship now and feel simular to have you descirbed. You just need to be patient and not rush things take some time to do your own things too. Me and my Bf have set days we call eachother for the evening then the rest of the week we do out own thing go out with mates etc, which means when we talk again we have more to talk about :)





I can understand your your worrys of him finding someone else i do with my bf too and honestly i know he does too. So maybe he misses you and worrys about you as you do him.





if you ever want to talk just give me a mail its also nice to have a friend you can talk to about these feelings to get them off your chest so it dont affect your relationship.





Just to note i live in the UK and my Bf lives in the netherlands.





good luck and i hope you find your way sweety x
Oh honey...





It's normal that you miss him, but you have to stop thinking so much! Go for a run, watch a movie, go shopping with girlfriends, play with your pet.. live your life! Don't burden him by making him the only one in your life to make you happy.





Instead, help your relationship by finding happiness in different places as well (friends, family, hobbies etc). When you have a positive outlook on the situation again, you'll be less suspicious and you will make it easier for him to show you that he means well. He sounds like a good guy but this way you're not really giving him a chance!





Like you said.. if you continue obsessing with him.. you end up losing him in the end.





What to do next?





Don't give in to the ';control-freak';-feelings. Don't follow his trails like Inspector Gadget.





Instead, say to him what you would say when he was sitting right next to you. Listen to your heart.. Tell him you miss him and hope he enjoys himself!!





Love conquers all!!


Best of luck,


Sam

How to deal with the 'pressure' of online chat in a long distance relationship if you don't feel like talking?

This is a question my nephew, who is in college now, emailed me the other day. He has been in love with a girl for over a year. Soon after they met, she had to move to France to begin her studies. He wrote:





';Today we live in a world where instant communication is the norm and is free: Instant messaging, Skype, webcams, etc. This past year, chatting and using the webcam have been daily rituals. On one hand, this makes me feel closer to her. But on the other hand, I鈥檓 almost always at a computer, whether it be my own or my computer at university. This means that for me instant messaging is always a possibility. And whereas this may seem like a good thing, I often feel I am supposed to be chatting whenever she is online, especially since our time zones don't leave that many available hours open. Of course it doesn't help if I am delaying university work, so whenever I don't feel like chatting, I felt I couldn鈥檛 use the excuse of having to work because I simply wasn鈥檛 working.';





Please give your serious opinions on how to deal with this delicate situation.


Many thanks!How to deal with the 'pressure' of online chat in a long distance relationship if you don't feel like talking?
He would need to set his priorities right. He should understand that he needs to get his college work done before he spends time on the computer chatting with her.

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How can you make a long distance relationship work? please help?

just found out today my boyfriend will be transferred 3 states away for work. I'm in tears. We have only been dating for 6 months, but I really liked him. He's the first man who's ever treated me like someone special in my 24 years. He's so sweet, affectionate, complimentary, funny, and he makes me smile and laugh so much. I know we're not married or anything, but it hurts so bad. I know sh*t happens, but can this work out? I asked him if he could just tell me what he wants to do with us, like move on or make it work and such, but he won't even tell me right now. Should i just forget about it? It was only 6 months anyway, but I really felt like I found someone special when I met him. If you have dealt with this situation/long distance before, please let me know how to deal with this. I'm so sad. :( Everyone says long distance relationships don't work.How can you make a long distance relationship work? please help?
I had a long distance relationship for 4 and a half years. It works if you really want it to. Is this a temporary thing or a permanent thing? If it's permanent, you have a lot of thinking to do. If you think he really is ';the one'; (or possibly), start thinking ahead and see if you might actually want to move out there with him. You could always try the long distance thing for a year or so and then make the decision to move if that is more comfortable for you.





The problem with long distance is that most couples tend to drift apart. They develop lives without each other and when they get the opportunity to be together again for good, it falls apart because they're not used to it. You need to grow together, ya know?





Follow your heart. I fell in love with someone in California and I'm in Iowa. He dropped everything and moved here (2 months into us dating) and it was the best thing that ever happened to us. We've been together for several years and we're engaged. Soooo... take that as you will.How can you make a long distance relationship work? please help?
The way you make a long distance relationship work is you dont. If your boyfriend or girlfriend moves then thats his/her problem
Sometimes they are doomed, sometimes they work, give it a chance and see. Talk with him about what to do....but wait a few days since he's probably also shocked and upset about the move and probably busy figuring out where he will live and how he will move all his stuff there etc.


Both of you could make plans to visit each other and also figure out ways to keep in touch. (Ex: get a webcam). Maybe you will end up going to school near where he is or moving there or he will move back near where you are.....but take things one step at a time for now.
I think if he makes you feel different special give him a chance to reply! And if he doesn't say anything then leave him he isn't worth it obviously he isn't THE ONE!!!! Hope thos helps! And good luck! ;-)
when i met my bf 3 years ago we began our relationship as long distance and actually had trouble when we moved closer together. its ahrd to change the dynamic of a relationship, whether its moving closer or further away. 6 months is pretty significant, and while hes mulling over his options right now, thigns could go either way. the important thing to remember is that, if he doesntw ant to continue the realtionship, make it a clean break and dont try to keep in touch (you will be far enough away that that will be easy). if he decides he wants to stay together, then you work to make it work. as long as both parties put in an honest effort you can make long distance work. you can see him 2 weekends a month (theoretically speaking.) you drive out to see him one weekend, then you each have a weekend alone, an the next weekend its his turn to drive to see you for teh weekend. it may be a little bit of a drive, but if you drive right after work on friday and leave sunday afternoon, it should give you a good amount of time together. jsut amke sure that your visiting time is you two time, and not time to see his buddies back home. he would have to come home a separate weekend to do that. so yes....i think they can work, but both individuals have to be 100 percent in! good luck. let him know how you feel but also let him know that its his decision at this point, and you understand if he doesnt have it in him to make it owrk.
by calling your partner most of the time. and you must spend time on the phone. make use of charting website to chart with you partner everyday, don't forget to write romantic sms to you partner telling him how much you love him.
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.

Long distance relationships?! help??

ok so ive been with my boyfriend for quite some time now.


we are both 17 but i recently moved to another state. family decision....


the thing is i dont see him as often anymore.


we mostly talk on the phone or onlinee...


these past few days hes been acting different. i may call him and hes mostly talkin to his ';homies'; in the background


and i cant get him to talk as much.. and i wonder if hes still feeling the same way


but when i actually talk to him when hes home all the doubts go away because he assures me he loves me and will never leave me.. and i really do love him a lot!!!!


i may be overreacting or its the distance.


we are thinking about moving together when were 18 or maybe even before. i just dont know how to deal with this..


anybody been through something similar please help me outt!!!


thanks in advanceeLong distance relationships?! help??
I've been in one for 4 years now and i know how hard it can be. We were 16 when we met and first started dating now we are almost 21 and we won't be able to move in together for another 2 or more years. he lives in Germany and a i live in california so we dont' get to visit eachother very much. After our first year we started to talk less and the main reason that we did was because our conversations were very routine and we kept talking about the same things over and over again. So we had to think of other ways to talk and stay connected. We started playing games on yahoo together since we're both a bit competative. We talked about anything we had on our mind, could be anything. We got webcams so that we could see eachother online which was great it got us talking more. Email me if you have more questions and i hope that things get better. Good luck :)Long distance relationships?! help??
Okay I have never been through it but I have had friends who have. The thing you need to do is try to suprise him. If you go see him don't tell him. Or talk to people you know that knows him. I know gossip is not always the best source but it can sometimes help. He maybe cheating or maybe he is just not a big talker on the ophone or something who knows. But of course he would tell you he still loves you and all of that because he can have his cake %26amp;%26amp; eat it too! Hope I helped.
i dont know


but i really really


suggest people not to get


a long distanc relationship





because u wouldnt know what theyre doing behind your back
Long distance relationships don't work out a lot unless you been together for awhile. Hang in there.
I guess if 18 is not that far off, so you could and should wait and see, I suppose. I'm not sure how far apart you two are right now, but the further it is, the harder it willl be.





HOWEVER, if you happen to meet someone new, it wouldn't be too against the rules just to hang out and SEE if there's anything there. Don't make anything into an actual date though, that way you SHOULD still be in the clear if/when you are reunited with Mr. Long Distance!





:)
distance is hard to deal with, especially for young people. I have broken up with two different men because they lived three hours away.


My opinion/experience is that great men are very hard to find, but great women are everywhere, so it will be harder for you to find a great man than it will him a great woman...good luck.
well its never happened to me but I think that you should visit your bf on the next break in school and maybe stay with one of your friends that lives there!!





And then make the judgement if you should dump him or not. Like go on a date with him and talk about everything that has been going on and see if the cemestry is still there!
Either move on and find some one in your state and know for sure your their one and only, or keep making it work out with your guy now. What every girl should know about guys and their friends, is their friends are not their girlfriend, their not going to act cute and funny, and say oh baby I love you, think about it like this guys are like animals in the jungle, if one them begins to look weak, the other animals are going to beat him up, take his bananas and become the king of the jungle. Let him act like he wants in front of his friends, and in front of you, he cant look like a pussy in love around his friends or he'll be the weak animal of the jungle, and what guy can look weak? If he reassures you and your content with it leave it at that, if not, well move on, you know he will if he felt you didn't love him.
it depends to you and your partner...i have a girlfriend right now and we're miles away from each other because she lives in a far away province...we talk and see each other not so often and most of the time our communication is oftenly through SMS...





how tough is that?!





however, we are doin' quite really fine and we're trusting each other...try to TRUST in him but do not lack communication...you can also try to spy on him if you don't trust him that much.. ;-p
you're too young for such a serious relationship...there's still a long way to discover and meet the real one and if he's the real one anyhow,,,he'll meet you half way...don't be in a hurry!!!and if he's really serious about you and you think it sure is,,,then why worry.....but i do believe that absence makes the heart forgets....i don't mean to discourage you anyhow,,,,,just advice,....
First thing is to not act too clingy. Which I know is hard to do. You have to stay interesting to him, and it sounds like he's already having to reassure you of his feelings for you. OK. Your family moved, so go with the flow, even if your heart is not in it. Get involved in your new surroundings. Make some new friends. Busy up some of your time. Allow your boyfriend to hang with his homies, just like he did when you were there. He needs to be able to breathe. He will be interested in hearing about new things in your life. It will be good and healthy for you to have things to talk about. You can still live a life and have some fun wishing he were their to share it with you. If you can't be a whole person, he's gonna loose interest. You won't be so attractive, do you know what I mean? You can do it girl.
It's really hard to be in a long distance relationship. If you want your relationship to last and if you do love him TRUST HIM. Don't doubt his feelings for you.
you need to talk to him about it. it might be that he feels embarrassed talking to you when he's with his friends(not OF you, but who wants to say ';i love you, honey'; in front of his ';homies';?), or he might be withdrawing because the distance is hard. tell him how you feel, how you need some phone time where he's alone, and ask him if he still feels the same way.

How should I go about dealing with a long distance relationship?

I became involved in a relationship with a man back in March of this year. Since the moment the relationship started there have been cases of him checking out girls in front of me, him lashing out at me and getting extremely upset about me talking to a particular friend that was a male friend (which i knew him LONG before I met my boyfriend), the way he speaks of women is extremely degrading, acting like a 3 year old when I choose to NOT have sex with him, and the list goes on and on. I choose to look past all these things and decided to give it another go and unfortunately I ended up pregnant. Now my issue is, he lives in California and I live in New York. We've been desperately trying to keep this relationship going but I just feel like if i don't kiss his *** to help me he won't lift a finger to do anything for his son and secondly, I just feel like he's inconsistent with his feelings and has started to push away but I feel like something else is going on and he isn't man enough to just be upfront about it. Plus I heard from another female's mouth that he hooked up with her and if course when I brought it up to him he denied it and kind of brushed it off.........is it worth it to stay involved? and what about my son?How should I go about dealing with a long distance relationship?
Steer clear of long-distance relationships of any kind... they almost always end in disaster.How should I go about dealing with a long distance relationship?
don't west your time, been there didn't work
NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! uve already wasted too much time on this loser. long distance doesn't work especially not with guys like him. if ur son isnt born yet, put him up for adoption, if he is then keep him but dont suffer in this phony relationship just for him. he won't have a better life if his parents are bickering and miserable just bcuz they are together.
F*CK no it's not worth it to stay involved. You just listed a bunch of reasons that should be convincing NOT to stay with him. Just because he is your son's father doesn't mean you have to stay with him. You can find someone better.
They don't work. Been there :/

Are you in a long distance relationship? How do you make it work?

just found out today my boyfriend will be transferred 3 states away for work. I'm in tears. We have only been dating for 6 months, but I really liked him. He's the first man who's ever treated me like someone special in my 24 years. He's so sweet, affectionate, complimentary, funny, and he makes me smile and laugh so much. I know we're not married or anything, but it hurts so bad. I know sh*t happens, but can this work out? I asked him if he could just tell me what he wants to do with us, like move on or make it work and such, but he won't even tell me right now. Why can't he just tell me? Should i just forget about it? It was only 6 months anyway, but I really felt like I found someone special when I met him. If you have dealt with this situation/long distance before, please let me know how to deal with this. I'm so sad. :( Everyone says long distance relationships don't work. Do I have ANY hope at all? No cynical/rude answers please, just answers from ppl who are in LDR's. Thank you.Are you in a long distance relationship? How do you make it work?
I am in a fabulous Long distance relation for 4 years now.. I have never met my girl and SHE is the one for me. It works on trust and patience. I met her when I was 16.. and she is my first and only love...





I works, you both should have the courage to say ';We can make it happen';.





I have seen so many relationships break off just because of mis understandings.. you just have to speak to each other and keep other safe!Are you in a long distance relationship? How do you make it work?
YOU CAN'T REALLY


I'VE TRIED


YOU MUST MEET
I used to be in a long distance relationship and it didn't work out. My advice is not to be in one unless you BOTH are 200% for this relationship with no doubts and you both are going to work your butts off visiting each other and staying connected. Thats the only way I think it can work. If one person doesn't care as much the other one will have all the stress and work. It takes very strong people (and those people need to really be ';the one'; for each other) to do a long distance relationship.
i tried it 3 or 4 times b4 n it didn't work coz in the end of the day u'll feel lonely n need regular meeting. i know there's webcam, 3G n stuffs like that but trust me it won't be enough coz u need real touches,real kisses n other real things.
distance relationships are always difficult to manage,If he loves you, like you do love him then you guys can talk things out and may be decide on how you manage it.
Long distance relationships take allot of work. But on the good side, having that person away does make the heart grow fonder. If this is something you both want it can work. The key word is though both. You really need to sit down and talk about it if you want to stay together and try to make it work. IF you decide to do it then make a point to talk on the phone at least once a week. Plan trips to see each other. Make plans because you will have things to look forward to when he does leave. I have done long distance and It can work. Just have to be flexible and have some trust in your relationship.
dont care .just always have contact with him..i am sure that ur voice will be enough to keep hi m always thinking abt u............
i was in a long distance relationship with a guy in canada and it worked super well for me. i was independent, busy and focused on loving him. He on the other hand needed babysitting 24/7 and after 3 years and being two weeks away from moving; furniture sold; house on the market, i found out he had been cheating with other women the whole time. this from a guy who was SO not like that; he even perjured himself on immigration paperwork. So to answer your question, i can do it just fine and behave myself; men on the other hand are pretty insecure and needy i've discovered. eye opener to me...didn't think he'd EVER do that in a million years and neither did any of his friends. they were stunned and so am i still a year later.....
It can work if the two of you are workinig at it. You can give it some time and see where it leads. Plan on vist's to each others places. You can tell alot by his apartment if he is cheating on you! The phone calls. The way you feel about him to must remain the same. It's a two-way street.
for some people it works and for some it doesn't work this is Ur relationship u do what u have to do to make it work it takes two remember you and him,if its meant to be that way for now


it wont kill u it will make it stronger so go for if theres love truly love go for it u can maybe visit if possible.who know good luck to you.

I'm in a long-distance relationship with a guy I really love. Need advice?

He and I really care deeply for eachother. I've never loved anyone or anything more, but this time away from him is killing me!!!!!!!!!! What I want to know is how do you deal with the pain of a long-distance relationship and balance dealing with your current life stresses on top of that?!?! This is really bothering me... any help would be appreciated. Thanks for your time!!!I'm in a long-distance relationship with a guy I really love. Need advice?
I am also in a long distance relationship. My fiance lives 2.5 hours away. We keep in contact on a daily basis by phone and spend every weekend together. Sure it does get lonely at times but these times are alright as it just shows how much we mean to each other. There are many life stressers sure but we can discuss them when we are talking to one and other. If you believe in yourself and your partner then only good will come of this relationship. Best of luck to you.I'm in a long-distance relationship with a guy I really love. Need advice?
I've been with my g/f for 3 years and half that time we lived in different states.





It was really tough but you have keep thinking positively about it and realize that you should be happy because you have found somebody that you really love. When you are feeling down just think to yourself how lucky you are.





Also, we called each other everyday and text messaged constantly which helped alot.

Do long distance relationships last ? how can i make it last ?

okay so my boyfriend lives like 45 minutes away ( yes thats not like 5 states away but its still far..i cant drive yet!) anyways...i really love him and he loves me and we talked about not being able to see each other much when school starts.. but im going to miss him so much..how do i deal with this ? and do you think it can last long ? and how can i make it last ?Do long distance relationships last ? how can i make it last ?
I';m in a long distance relationship. My sister was in one they now live together and they have been together for 6 years and counting so yeah they do last and you can make them work.





A couple suggestions:





-Talk everyday at least once.


-Do small things for each other while you can't see each other like write him a note or just send him a text every once in a while expressing how much you love him or miss him, etc.


-Communicate. Express how you feel at all times. Good communication is key to any relationship but especially a long distance one.


-Make phone dates. When you say you are going to call, call.Do long distance relationships last ? how can i make it last ?
meet somewhere in the middle...buy a webcam...call him on the phone. if you make the effort, it'll work out :]
Err.. Hee livess 45 minutes away, Walk!.. Dont bee sooo Lazy. Doo youu wannaa see him or not.


... Lauren
sorry they don't last unless you know that you're going to be close to him again. Guys need to be physically connected with a girl.
well i made a long distance 8 hours apart relationship last for 9 months... then she ';didnt feel it'; so idk... get a webcam and chat and talk... and idk make it so that you can see eachother at least oncea month
It can last if you stay in constant communication with the person. Often, these relationships are frustrating because there are no dates.
I'm sorry but It won't last ..but If u really want him just move on with him...Be always near him ;)





Good luck! ;)
just breath. lol. in my experience long distance relationships never lasted. but mine were also states away lol. if you want it to last then you'll have to work on it. can he drive yet? if not how long until one of you will be able to drive? i'd say just keep up what your doing. if it gets to hard then i suggest maybe paying someone to take you to see eachother or something. hope i helped :D

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What are the keys to being happy in a long distance relationship and how can you make it work?

It's not a really long distance relationship but about 60 minutes apart. He has alot of responsibilities, has to divide time up for family, ex-family and work and doesn't really have a lot of time for me. I just don't know how to deal with being alone most of the time and not knowing how things will change or be in the future if it progresses. He tells me with words that he loves me but I don't always feel like I'm loved and wanted. I feel like a burden and not of any importance. I would guess that I am maybe 5th on his list of important things or priorities. I don't know what to do.What are the keys to being happy in a long distance relationship and how can you make it work?
It depends on how much you want it to work.





Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.





Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your ';life'; is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.





Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever!What are the keys to being happy in a long distance relationship and how can you make it work?
i was in a long distance relationship once - hated hate hate hate hated it!
I read an article that I thought was really good on long distance relationships, take a look.





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Be patient....don't hang all you joy in life on him!
i was happy in my long distance relationship when my bf always made time to talk to me. we spoke every day and had amazing conversations. this doesn't apply for you i guess with it only being 60 minutes but because he was assigned a job on the other side of the world we agreed to have an open relationship which kept us both happy. the moment he got busy with work and i would go weeks without a proper conversation, the whole thing broke down and i felt like you do now. it's a horrible feeling. it's difficult because you know he has to work and see other people but if he were with you he would make time. i would talk to your bf about how you feel and see if he can make more time for you. if not, don't let it drag on and get unhappier about it. good luck
I've been through this. I was in a long distance relationship for 4 months and we were 3 hours apart. It worked out perfectly. We just had our one year anniversary yesterday. I guess the biggest thing you need to remember is communication. If you tell your partner exactly how you are feeling things may change. (he may not even know that you're hurting and don't feel important) If he's worth keeping, he'll make you feel special. It's sad that you feel like your 5th on his list of priorities but remember, ';because you ARE far away, there are always going to be important things going on that you aren't included in because you are far away';. Another hint is make it a point to see eachother at least 2 times a month. I guess if you don't listen to all of this, just remember the most important thing, trust and communication!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Get yourself a fill in boy friend when you are lonely.





Some people settle for number 2, you are all the way down to number 5. Doesn't that tell you something ?





An hour apart. No big deal except gasoline is over $3 a gallon. He must be asking himself if you are worth $3 a gallon as you are his number 5 priority.





Unless he can use inexpensive public transportation, you could slip to 6 or even drop off the radar.
sounds to me like the prob isnt the distance but rather the view from the back burner (if it were).





Live near me?
u can make it work out by sending pitures to each other and talking on the phone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Long distance?

any tips how to deal with a long distance relationship?


anyone in the same situation?Long distance?
never work out...Long distance?
never say never

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i personally dont like long dis relationship even am having it.. its not gonna work unless you guys talk a lot or see each other for once two weeks at least.. some people are cheating during relationship... unless both trust eachother... nothing really problem with that
it sucks-don't do it. seriously, it hurts more in the end.
wow I wish you lots of luck on this one cause mine didnt work.All I can say is if you both love each other very much ,call one another 2x's a week if possible if time and money allows .Communication and trust is a must in a relationship!!! Again best of luck xx
I have been in a long distance, committed relationship for two years.


It requires total maturity, total trust, unending patience and enough income to provide money for travel back and forth.
am working on a long distance thing, some days we have good days and some days we have not so good days. Nice I.D. by the way reminds me of her=team 3 D

How do I deal with a suicidal boyfriend in a long distance relationship?

Hello everyone.





Me and my boyfriend never see eachother. We talk everyday, either online or on the phone. It kills us to be apart. We are both very commited and very much in love with eachother.


He has a very bad temper that he sometimes cant control. He doesnt take help, listen to, or trust anyone but me.


He has been through alot in his life. His mom died when he was born, so he was left on the side of the road by his father. he was born in india.


He does not get along with his ';mother'; and he is very suicidal. I have gone through this with him before but it is only getting worse. I cant stop him anymore. he is shutting everyone out. And since i am the only one who can help, i have tons of guilt if something happens. Me and him have made a lot of promises to one another and had alot of plans. he is changing who he is and going back on everything he has said.





What do i do here?How do I deal with a suicidal boyfriend in a long distance relationship?
Tell him to tie a rope around a door knob, throw the rope over the door, get a milk crate, stand on it, tie the rope around his neck, kick the milk crate out and BAM! another f*cking idiot out of our hair that won't hurt or abuse anyone, simple as that. Hope this helps.How do I deal with a suicidal boyfriend in a long distance relationship?
lets keep in mind i love this boy. That was uncalled for.

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Try and find a way to go see him, he need to get more positive thoughts going on and you need to remind him of the promise and remind him that people may have hurt him in the past but you are here for him forever, He need reassurance and you should try and go see him if you can it would probabaly help him alot
i can relate..strongly. and im in your same situation. just him thinking positive(or try to)and maybe encourage him to get involved in something out of school like a sport or something
pray 4 him..only God can save him from doing it..
well.i would.OH I GOT IT! PICK ME!!! PICK ME!! okay ill go anway. okay my answer is.





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remind him of his promises, and that he's strong enough to not let this break him down. tramatic experiences create a unique and valuable characteristic in a person...they just...idk, appreciate more, see things in a new way, think about important things...he needs to realize this. and he doesnt have to let his past affect him now. why should it? his mother died - it happens. his father dumped him - ppl are selfish, but some arent....some care for him, like you. you cant fix what happened in the past but you can help him create a new future, and he needs to be told this....nothing binds him to his past.

Long distance?

how do you deal with a long distance relationship? My boyfriend and i of 2 years are in a long distance relationship during the school year. How to deal?Long distance?
iv been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now if you love each other theres no way of DEALING with it you just love them so much it doesnt matter how far away from you they are. if you feel sad coz hes not there just remember how lucky you are to have him as your boyfriend and you must always trust each other or the distance will hurt.Long distance?
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Make sure you trust him if you have any doubt at all about his fidelity them maybe you need to reconsider my boyfriend and I live 300 miles away but we trust each other completely
i ahd a bf we had been dating for 3 years and he moved to michigan and we talked and everything was great then we both got tired of not seeing each other everyday so we broke up but we are still friends

Long Distance Relationships?

My boyfriend and I have a talk yesterday about long distance relationships. He told me that if he ever moved away he would do everything in his power to take me, but he hasn't heard of any long distance relationships working well, while he didn't say he would break up with me if he did move, i get the feeling that was what he meant at least if he couldn't take me.





ANYWAY, that conversation made me wonder how many people think that long distance relationships could work, and what would make them work.





Oh and before i get mean people telling me he doesn't love me, I know he loves me, it is just a situation he never has dealt with before.Long Distance Relationships?
Rul-io number 1: You have to be the most patient person in the whole universe in order fer something like this to work out. I have held on to mine fer a very long time, just recently I went to see her in person and it sucks like...a lot...cause I can't do anything bout it now...being back home and all...TT-TT ANYWAY





Rul-io number 2: Use the handy-dandy MSN (or any other type of messenger you like) and install a web cam and mic so you and him can always remember how you guys look and sound like. You have no idea how easy it can be to ferget.





Rul-io number 3: Try to arrange as many visits as possible~! Seeing each other in person always helps you remember they are a real person XD In my case, it doesn't matter much but to people fresh to it, it wouldn't be a bad idea to keep in contact as much as possible!








Well, I hope this helps a bit...? Heh.





Good luck!!








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it really would depend on how long you`ve been 2 gether and weither or not if you gues have trust in each other
they work. trust me. but you just need to try really really hard, try to control jealousy, and work out problems by talking (not yelling, cussing, or screaming). good luck. i kno its a hard situation, but i'm sure if you two are really in love it will work out.
they can be hard. my sister tried it with her bf, they still talk, but eh. One of you may get jealous and get clingy and bother the other, or you may notice someone else in closer proximity. It really hurt my sister when we moved, so try everything to stay w/ him, but, I'm sorry, it may not be enough
Okayy, My sister and her Boyfriend have been dating for about 7-8months now and they have a long distance relationship. I think it does work if both of you are willing to keep going with the relationship. You cancall eachother, text eachother, e-mail eachother, keep in contact with IM and see eachother every now and again. =)
i think they could work, but with a lot of effort. you would have to communicate and trust eachother a lot. you'd have to make plans to see eachother as often as you can... good luck
THEY NEVER WORK! SORRY!
I was in a long distance relationship once. I thought it was awesome! We never fought, and when we were together it was a blast, and he always brought me presents! It didn't work out because I was still young and didn't need the seriousness.
u got the internet. u can chat with him on the net
I am currently in a long distance relationship that has been going great for four months now. It has been the best relationship of my life and I think it's all due to the matter of how much you really love each other that keeps the relationship strong and intact. In the majority of the cases, ldrs don't tend to work out b/c the long distance proves as a distraction for some ppl. However, I think by calling, emailing, texting, or just chatting to each other by saying how much you love them will keep the relationship going steady. It may be difficult for your bf to handle b/c he has never dealt with this before, but give it a try, and if you both truly love each other, then everything will and should work out perfectly. =)





Good luck.
i am in along distance relationship with this boy from Shreveport, we have been together since i was in the 8, but i moved in the 9th grade now I'm a senior in in high school and our relationship is still stronger as a matter of fact it's stronger and better than ever because we have built that trust bond between the 2 of us and it's wonderful..Friend that's all you have to do is have trust and i promise u it will work....I'm going back after graduation to be with him and to go to LSUS!!!!...


G00D Lu(K!!!!!i hope it all works out for the be++er
That all depends on the two people involved in the relationship. Long distance relationships can work they require a lot of communication, understanding, patience, and money (visits). If both of you have never been in one before then the only way to see is to actually be in one with one another.


It really just depends on the both of you and how you feel about it while going through it.
Mine did not work. What failed? A lack of communication. So make sure that you guys know to try and communicate as much as possible.
you will know how much he loves you when he moves away and doesn't ask you to join him as his wife. anything short of that will be a clear indication of how much he doesn't love or respect you. asking you to move with him as his girlfriend, is an insult. of course, i'm sure you wouldn't agree with that. however, you will see i'm right after you move and shack up with him for a few years and still no sign of his making any real commitment. don't be foolish and hold yourself in such little regard. if he doesn't ask you to marry him before he leaves, then let him go and get on with your life.
Long distance? How does that work? It doesn't !! Come on, If you found a guy that's close and and around you would move on and not even think of the guy who is not around in person and just talking to you on the phone. You know you would dis him in a second. The guy that is keeping in contact with you just by talking to you and just hearing his voice you would get board after a while and you know you would settle for a guy that is there in person. And that's why it would not work. so get it strait girl.

Can anyone here please tell me how to deal with this WOMAN in a long distance relationship ?

Hello world. I met this woman online. We talked for about a year. We considered it to


be a relationship, because it was our own


personal choice. With that being said, it kind


of caught up with us. She is now seeing this


new guy, and I was hurt. But not that much,


when I admitted to myself that I wanted to


do the same. So we came to an agreement


to just be friends, and not contact each other. She kept saying that she loved me,


even after she slept with the guy ! Kept calling my house the night, her boyfriend


told her to not talk to me any more. Hmmm.


She sounded sad when she said she couldnt


speak to me again. However I went back


to check my emails, and she added me as


a contact again on Yahoo ! And she answered one of my questions too ! So what


do you think world ? Does this woman still


love me ?Can anyone here please tell me how to deal with this WOMAN in a long distance relationship ?
Long distance relationships are hard as it is, the fact that you have not yet met, is even more difficult. She seems really hypocritical. You can't tell someone that you love them, and then sleep with someone else. She has a man, and she is still wanting to be with you also, that says a lot about her character. what's to say that if you guys meet and start a serious relationship, that she will not do the same thing to you as she is doing to her current man. I think you should cut her out of your life. If you continue being friends, she will continue trying to have some kind of relationship with you. Also think about if you get into a relationship with someone new, your new girlfriend might not appreciate you talking to such a confused chick.





Good Luck!Can anyone here please tell me how to deal with this WOMAN in a long distance relationship ?
Well, I'd say you need to figure out what you want for afterwards... If she still loves you, and you meet her in the fall, what are the chances that you can turn this into a real relationship? Would you want that? Or would you prefer to take an easier path / another woman / ...?


If you think you'd rather call it off sooner or later, sooner always hurts less.
First and foremost follow your heart. If you still have feelings for her but don't want to be with her try to keep less contact with her as possible. you also have to see where her head is at in the situation because being in a relationship is a two- way street. because if she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you then then it won't work and vice versa. In the end ONLY TIME WILL TELL!! BeSt wIsHeS!!

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New military relationships, long distance?

i recently became envolved with a military guy while he was home for 2 weeks. we were friends before, then when he came home we hooked up. for 2 weeks we were a couple, acted like a couple, and spent practically every min. together. then he left to be stationed 16,000 miles away. we agreed to keep it simple, since neither of us had much faith in long distance relationships. plus he isnt supposed to come home again till christmas. so for 2 weeks we talked on the phone ofter about how much we missed and really cared for eachother etc. but all the while he would tell me that if something else came along, i should take it. he said he would probably just end up waiting till christmas for me instead of having a relationship with girls there that are known to cheat. so my feelings for him grew and grew, and after not talking to him for a week, he called and said that he was talking to someone else..deep down i knew this would happen. but im having a hard time dealing with it. what shoud i do?New military relationships, long distance?
Military relationships are notorious for adultery. I've been married to the navy for almost 9 years, and I see it all the time. Most younger people are not emotionally equipped to deal with long distance relationships, especially young people with high stress jobs, like those in the military. See the guy when he's on leave, have fun together, but don't expect a monogamous relationship. You're too young, and it's too much pain and drama to put yourself through for a guy who lives thousands of miles away.New military relationships, long distance?
i think as long as things are working out and you both are happy...then stick it out... if something happens atleast try to work it out. if you cant and it comes to an end you can atleast know you did what you could to keep it alive.

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hello!!! he's a single guy in the military! why should he have a long distance relationship when he can have an up close and personal one? leave him alone and find someone closer to you geographically
i know how u feel, when u really like that guy it doesnt even matter if he's that far, u will always love him and like him and miss him. for me, it's never impossible to work things out the way both of you wants.anyway, if you know that he's good,kind and trustworthy.. please work it out. i know one great guy of the navy,he was in love with me.. calling me all the time, sending me presents even he's away. one day, i got fed up, i kept thinking that he cheats and just trying to use me and all those negative things. i told him i found someone else and wanted him to stop calling. so we now no longer a couple but he was so nice and trustworthy guy. and i hope that he can be the one. anyway, long distance relationship is a struggle that i never wish to work out.it's emotionally hard and you will end up getting hurt.the question of ';when can we meet again?'; is just the hardest thing.what if u never gonna see him again..?ull live in doubts all the time. anyway, make the best decision for ur self.. Good Luck, the choice is in your hands.

How should I deal with my girlfriend's obsessiveness in our long distance relationship? How can I help her?

I am dating a woman who has 2 years of college away from home remaining. While she is at school, several problems have been occurring. She seems overly obsessed with me, wanting nearly perpetual contact with me, when she gets up, when she goes to bed, and basically all available time. We often agree upon times to talk, but she consistently calls me earlier than agreed, often waking me up when I need to be sleeping. It seems like a major burden for her to let me interrupt our calls to do the things I need or want to do. When I go out, she calls me on my cell phone many times, getting distraught if I cannot answer. She consistently worries about things that might end our relationship. She is continuously depressed when I'm not visiting her. She seems so focussed on me that I'm concerned her studies are suffering.


I often tell her these things trouble me and she's is slowly improving her habits. However I know for emotional reasons it's hard. But I love her and I want to help her.How should I deal with my girlfriend's obsessiveness in our long distance relationship? How can I help her?
you must be a very good boyfriend. we can tell from the way you write that you really care about the relationship.


you shouldnt accept this behavior from her, it is not healthy for anyone to keep going on like this.


you should have a serious talk to her next time you two meet. tell her that you really love and cherish your relationship and that you would never do nything to hurt or disrespect her.


dont say that she disturbs you when she calls, dont say that you dont like her attitude, just tell her that she doent need to be checking on you so often. you should try taking the active role and calling her before she calls you, call her unexpectedly just to say ';i miss you';, ';i wish you were here';, before you go out w your friends, let her know with whom you are going with and say something cute that girls like to hear, like: ';it would much more fun w you';, ';you should meet so and so, you would love him';, call her when you get home just to say goodnight. try and help her feel secure and special.


you should also ask her: ';what is it that you fear will happen when we are apart?'; listen to her.


dont lose her over this, it is just insecurity, it will go away.How should I deal with my girlfriend's obsessiveness in our long distance relationship? How can I help her?
just love her how she is
She has a feeling that she is going to loose you while she is away. Reassure her how much you care and this can't stop happening. Ask her what her fear is if she can't get ahold of you? Does she think you are cheating? She has to trust you, which it doesn't seem like she does.
if you love her then suck it up she misses you...and its hard for her....and maybe you do love her but arent ready to love her the way she wants...and just ask yourself which one would be worst ...not having a relationship with her at all or giving her the comfort she needs to maintain a relationship with you
You definitely have to explain to her how her behavior is hurting you and her and also affecting your relationship. Just be up front about it and as gentle as possible. Tell her that you love her, but you both still need to live your own lives as much as possible and enjoy the time you get to talk to each other too. If she calls before she says she will, don't answer and call her back. If you have to put your foot down in order to get her to understand the problem, then do that. She has to eventually realize that her behavior isn't going to fly for very long before you really get sick of it and it could be the downfall of your relationship. Ask her why she's acting this way and if you can do anything to help her change. If you keep tell her and she's not listening, then you have another big decision to make. Good luck.
The ony thing you can do is keep your line and dont let her press you with her obssesiveness. My gf is kinda like that. if she calls too early I turn off my mobile the next mornings so she wont wake me up.


I just explain her that I have stuff to do so she cannot see me all the time.


She might want to see you often but once she gets it, she gets bored so to give yourself value, you need to be like gold..hard to find.
She sounds like a nut case. That can be dangerous. If you really love her then get her to a Psychiatrist to deal with her depression and


obsessiveness. Otherwise look elsewhere for love. Because in the long run you will eventually grow to detest her.

Long Distance Relationship?

How do I deal with a long distance relationship? I always miss my boyfriend but don't have chances to see him! How do I deal? I need help!!Long Distance Relationship?
I Am in my third long distance relationship. The first was the hardest because neither of us had cars So we would go months without seeing each other. All i really can say is that if both of you are willing to work at it it will work. It will hurt to be away from him but if you love him then its worth it. Find other ways like sending him cute things in the mail or just any other thing you can think of to keep you connected. Hope i helped :)Long Distance Relationship?
I am the same way. Just wait till you get a license and drive down there. Don't listen to other people, they will just make fun of you. My love is true and pure not like other people.
try to make times of you going to see him or him coming seeing you.. or think about if the relationship is worth this long realationship..
me and the hubby talk every day. i know how hard this is the hubby live in a different country but we sure make it work.
This is the hardest thing ive everrr done with my boyfriend. Its so much strain and stress to go through it. You just kind of do. make sure you guys set up times to talk and make sure you being open with each other about everything. Make sure your making time for each other. It really takes a strong local relationship to go through a long distance but as far as missing him you might try to keep yourself busy, with friends, activities and just stuff to do to keep your mind of not having him around
call him at night..or text if you are busy during the day..or find a hobby that you can do with friends, that way you can look forward to doing it with them..
im sorry but long distance is not the way to go
It is hard. I met my girlfriend online and were in a long distance relationship for probably 4-5 years before she moved down here for college. It was rough. Make sure you call each other everyday.
First advice: break up. It doesn't work well. For almost two years I dated a boy in Korea (I was in U.S.), and it was sooo difficult cuz we could only meet a few times.





If you don't want to break up, the best thing is use webcam and msn to chat a lot. That's all I could do. Webcam+msn+phone/mic.





Send packages to each other.


Send a lot of text messages.


Talk about him to your friends a lot. Always made me feel better.
theres many option . either tru email , chatting or call him. long distance relationship is very painful .
im currently in a long distance relationship. i haven't seen my girlfriend in 7 months (im deployed to iraq right now) what i would recommend is keeping yourself busy but make sure you make him a priority. spend time on the phone every night with him, do things to keep you busy IE job, friends, other clean fun. stick it out you never know it may be worth it in the end. im glad i stuck it out
Im in a LD relationship. I feel the same. I really want to be with her and such, all I do is look forward to the next time we will be together.
The trouble with long distance relationship is that you each develop an idea of what the other is during your time apart and the longer that the relationship continues, the more your ideas of your partner differs from reality, you wind up in love with someone that does not exist and you may realize that too late.