It's not a really long distance relationship but about 60 minutes apart. He has alot of responsibilities, has to divide time up for family, ex-family and work and doesn't really have a lot of time for me. I just don't know how to deal with being alone most of the time and not knowing how things will change or be in the future if it progresses. He tells me with words that he loves me but I don't always feel like I'm loved and wanted. I feel like a burden and not of any importance. I would guess that I am maybe 5th on his list of important things or priorities. I don't know what to do.What are the keys to being happy in a long distance relationship and how can you make it work?
It depends on how much you want it to work.
Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.
Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your ';life'; is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.
Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever!What are the keys to being happy in a long distance relationship and how can you make it work?
i was in a long distance relationship once - hated hate hate hate hated it!
I read an article that I thought was really good on long distance relationships, take a look.
http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-l鈥?/a>
Be patient....don't hang all you joy in life on him!
i was happy in my long distance relationship when my bf always made time to talk to me. we spoke every day and had amazing conversations. this doesn't apply for you i guess with it only being 60 minutes but because he was assigned a job on the other side of the world we agreed to have an open relationship which kept us both happy. the moment he got busy with work and i would go weeks without a proper conversation, the whole thing broke down and i felt like you do now. it's a horrible feeling. it's difficult because you know he has to work and see other people but if he were with you he would make time. i would talk to your bf about how you feel and see if he can make more time for you. if not, don't let it drag on and get unhappier about it. good luck
I've been through this. I was in a long distance relationship for 4 months and we were 3 hours apart. It worked out perfectly. We just had our one year anniversary yesterday. I guess the biggest thing you need to remember is communication. If you tell your partner exactly how you are feeling things may change. (he may not even know that you're hurting and don't feel important) If he's worth keeping, he'll make you feel special. It's sad that you feel like your 5th on his list of priorities but remember, ';because you ARE far away, there are always going to be important things going on that you aren't included in because you are far away';. Another hint is make it a point to see eachother at least 2 times a month. I guess if you don't listen to all of this, just remember the most important thing, trust and communication!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Get yourself a fill in boy friend when you are lonely.
Some people settle for number 2, you are all the way down to number 5. Doesn't that tell you something ?
An hour apart. No big deal except gasoline is over $3 a gallon. He must be asking himself if you are worth $3 a gallon as you are his number 5 priority.
Unless he can use inexpensive public transportation, you could slip to 6 or even drop off the radar.
sounds to me like the prob isnt the distance but rather the view from the back burner (if it were).
Live near me?
u can make it work out by sending pitures to each other and talking on the phone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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