Long distance relationships?! help??

ok so ive been with my boyfriend for quite some time now.


we are both 17 but i recently moved to another state. family decision....


the thing is i dont see him as often anymore.


we mostly talk on the phone or onlinee...


these past few days hes been acting different. i may call him and hes mostly talkin to his ';homies'; in the background


and i cant get him to talk as much.. and i wonder if hes still feeling the same way


but when i actually talk to him when hes home all the doubts go away because he assures me he loves me and will never leave me.. and i really do love him a lot!!!!


i may be overreacting or its the distance.


we are thinking about moving together when were 18 or maybe even before. i just dont know how to deal with this..


anybody been through something similar please help me outt!!!


thanks in advanceeLong distance relationships?! help??
I've been in one for 4 years now and i know how hard it can be. We were 16 when we met and first started dating now we are almost 21 and we won't be able to move in together for another 2 or more years. he lives in Germany and a i live in california so we dont' get to visit eachother very much. After our first year we started to talk less and the main reason that we did was because our conversations were very routine and we kept talking about the same things over and over again. So we had to think of other ways to talk and stay connected. We started playing games on yahoo together since we're both a bit competative. We talked about anything we had on our mind, could be anything. We got webcams so that we could see eachother online which was great it got us talking more. Email me if you have more questions and i hope that things get better. Good luck :)Long distance relationships?! help??
Okay I have never been through it but I have had friends who have. The thing you need to do is try to suprise him. If you go see him don't tell him. Or talk to people you know that knows him. I know gossip is not always the best source but it can sometimes help. He maybe cheating or maybe he is just not a big talker on the ophone or something who knows. But of course he would tell you he still loves you and all of that because he can have his cake %26amp;%26amp; eat it too! Hope I helped.
i dont know


but i really really


suggest people not to get


a long distanc relationship





because u wouldnt know what theyre doing behind your back
Long distance relationships don't work out a lot unless you been together for awhile. Hang in there.
I guess if 18 is not that far off, so you could and should wait and see, I suppose. I'm not sure how far apart you two are right now, but the further it is, the harder it willl be.





HOWEVER, if you happen to meet someone new, it wouldn't be too against the rules just to hang out and SEE if there's anything there. Don't make anything into an actual date though, that way you SHOULD still be in the clear if/when you are reunited with Mr. Long Distance!





:)
distance is hard to deal with, especially for young people. I have broken up with two different men because they lived three hours away.


My opinion/experience is that great men are very hard to find, but great women are everywhere, so it will be harder for you to find a great man than it will him a great woman...good luck.
well its never happened to me but I think that you should visit your bf on the next break in school and maybe stay with one of your friends that lives there!!





And then make the judgement if you should dump him or not. Like go on a date with him and talk about everything that has been going on and see if the cemestry is still there!
Either move on and find some one in your state and know for sure your their one and only, or keep making it work out with your guy now. What every girl should know about guys and their friends, is their friends are not their girlfriend, their not going to act cute and funny, and say oh baby I love you, think about it like this guys are like animals in the jungle, if one them begins to look weak, the other animals are going to beat him up, take his bananas and become the king of the jungle. Let him act like he wants in front of his friends, and in front of you, he cant look like a pussy in love around his friends or he'll be the weak animal of the jungle, and what guy can look weak? If he reassures you and your content with it leave it at that, if not, well move on, you know he will if he felt you didn't love him.
it depends to you and your partner...i have a girlfriend right now and we're miles away from each other because she lives in a far away province...we talk and see each other not so often and most of the time our communication is oftenly through SMS...





how tough is that?!





however, we are doin' quite really fine and we're trusting each other...try to TRUST in him but do not lack communication...you can also try to spy on him if you don't trust him that much.. ;-p
you're too young for such a serious relationship...there's still a long way to discover and meet the real one and if he's the real one anyhow,,,he'll meet you half way...don't be in a hurry!!!and if he's really serious about you and you think it sure is,,,then why worry.....but i do believe that absence makes the heart forgets....i don't mean to discourage you anyhow,,,,,just advice,....
First thing is to not act too clingy. Which I know is hard to do. You have to stay interesting to him, and it sounds like he's already having to reassure you of his feelings for you. OK. Your family moved, so go with the flow, even if your heart is not in it. Get involved in your new surroundings. Make some new friends. Busy up some of your time. Allow your boyfriend to hang with his homies, just like he did when you were there. He needs to be able to breathe. He will be interested in hearing about new things in your life. It will be good and healthy for you to have things to talk about. You can still live a life and have some fun wishing he were their to share it with you. If you can't be a whole person, he's gonna loose interest. You won't be so attractive, do you know what I mean? You can do it girl.
It's really hard to be in a long distance relationship. If you want your relationship to last and if you do love him TRUST HIM. Don't doubt his feelings for you.
you need to talk to him about it. it might be that he feels embarrassed talking to you when he's with his friends(not OF you, but who wants to say ';i love you, honey'; in front of his ';homies';?), or he might be withdrawing because the distance is hard. tell him how you feel, how you need some phone time where he's alone, and ask him if he still feels the same way.